Whenever a new client calls or emails me for some hypnotherapy, I always explain the same thing; that first there will be an initial consultation. This may not seem unusual, as with any therapeutic relationship it is nice to start with a meeting to see if there is rapport and if the therapy, and indeed therapist, fits the person; but my consultations are a bit more than that. In my consultation room you’ll also get a lovely little explanation about how your brain works – and there are some very good reasons for that…
You’re making changes, not me
Solution focused hypnotherapy is a non-esoteric therapy. Meaning I don’t sit there and give you the answers based on what you tell me; I believe YOU have the answers, I’m just there to help you find them, and apply them. I believe you know your own mind better than me, and you are the expert in your own life. By explaining to you how brains work in simply terms, we can see how that applies to you and your situation; this then gives you a tool to work out how best to move forward. If I was teaching you baking for example, you might know what your favourite cake is; you would come to me with the ingredients and I could explain the scientific way to make a cake, but it is you who would go away with that knowledge to your own kitchen and bake the cake yourself, based on your taste, what ingredients you bought and what kitchen you have; but you are the one doing the baking! Which brings me on to…
The brain loves a metaphor!
When I explain how the brain works, I use lots of stories, images and metaphor; there’s no point blinding clients with science and if they are already feeling anxious or stressed, a whole lot of scientific jargon is not going to help them. We learn so much better if we are taught things using stories; it’s why we learn so many as children when getting our primary education. By giving clients simple clear images and stories it gives them something safe and clear to attach their “problem” to, which also starts the process of getting back on track by distancing them from the problem. So rather than being very anxious they might ‘have a full stress bucket’, rather than feeling depressed they might feel ‘stuck in the cave’; these simple metaphors helps to identify problems without giving too much weight to them, but also by quickly identifying solutions.
It is empowering
In a traditional psychotherapeutic relationship, the client has the problem and the therapist has the ‘knowledge’ to help that person with their problem. In my clinic I give you the ‘knowledge’ in our first meeting so that you have a tool to help yourself. I am there then to be beside you as you go forward. This acknowledges and reminds you that you are the expert in your own life. I find when clients are reminded of this, it is hugely empowering, and feeling empowered is a big part of feeling in control again.
It is hypnotic
Introducing you to stories, positive images and themes is part of what I do in the hypnotic state, if I can start that process from the get go by inviting you to listen to my stories about the brain from our first meeting, then the hypnotherapy we do together is going to be even more effective. Learning how the brain works and listening to your relaxation track at home all help with the hypnotherapy process.
It is fun!
Taking that first step to go for a consultation with a new therapist, hypnotherapist or otherwise is a big deal! It can be quite scary, emotional or anxiety-inducing. I want you to feel as comfortable, relaxed and safe as possible and I find a light-hearted explanation of how the brain works is a better way of helping you feel relaxed than asking probing questions about your anxieties and problems. I want clients to leave a consultation feeling hope, positivity and like they’ve gained some understanding of how their own brain works, looking forward to their first session; and isn’t that how therapy should be?
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